ADD ME ON YOUR FACEBOOK,PLS!

Author: Bee

4 Mar

Just wondering. How many person from your Facebook friends that are really your friends, and you know them personally? When I used to like the first online social network, Friendster,I was amazed to see one of my friend kept getting more friends added to her profile every single day, and I was wondering if she does have that much friends on earth!

But actually what she did was just : add, add, and add anyone who wants her to be their online Friendster friend! One friend I know is my close friend, the next day was hers ! When I asked her where did she know my friend from? She lightly said : from Friendster! and all she did was just click ‘Yes‘ to the friend request! And she repeatedly did this to other 189 friend request received. What happened with a face to face social life now?

Hmmm…..I personally think, unless you are a famous singer or band like Melanie Subono who needs to promote and publish a new album or TV host such as Olga Lydia (with 4,463 fans or friends?), who must have so many people wanting to be listed on their profile as a friend (not a Fan!), then adding too many people into your friends profile would not make it look good. As long as they are a friend of your friend or what they call : ‘Still On Your Extended Network‘ and through ‘People You May Know‘, then I’m OK to add anyone. If your “Best Friend” are those who you just met on Facebook, then you have a serious social life problem..

Specially on Facebook,I would much prefer to add my ex highschool/university mates, and any old friend, but I would prefer they leave a personal message when adding me, to remind me where do I know this person from. Because sometimes, even if I know this is an ex elementary school class mate, the face DOES NOT RING A BELL AT ALL . It is simply because they’ve changed so much (pronounced as : fat and ugly – lol)!

So ya, I’ve recently changed my profile settings on Facebook to be viewed by friends only, and it worked! I got less and less stranger friend request from someone I dont know and those who refuse to leave a personal message when adding me. I mean, you can’t just expect me to accept the request, specially when we’ve never met before and suddenly we are a best friend???…

What about you? Are you adding friends on your Facebook from anybody’s request? Or are you making people think you are so famous and has a very wide social life (online) ?

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4 Responses to “ADD ME ON YOUR FACEBOOK,PLS!”

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Steven Says:
March 5th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
For me, I only added people that I know. I might not remember his/her picture or name, but if we’re at least from the same school, I usually accept the person. But you are right, short message from that person would be really great to remind us who they are.

However, people with different purposes might add as many people as they can, so they can get more audience to communicate whatever they want to communicate.

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sava geetha Says:
March 5th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
100% friends on my facebook is people that i know including Bali friends, Bandung friends, My Husband’s best friends (i know well of course!),childhood friends, relatives, family, co worker, x co workers.

It’s different from the time when I was in friendster which 50% of the list are strangers! oh, that scary! since I had a very bad experience in friendster, now I decide to be far more selective in choosing friends for my FB list.

Total friends I have now in FB is 127.They’re in touch with me till now. Seeing the total, it’s nothing comparing to my friends who almost reach 1000 on her list!? Amazing! but when I asked her whether she knows them well. She said yes! No wonder she’s working as Marketer hahaha

So far I love facebook since I can express my real feeling in a very “cueks” style on the status. Don’t care if people think my status Not so Penting but for me…letting friends know what I’m doin and get to know what they’re doing is fun and make me closer to each other..Really! friends are important but being famous through a social network is not my target ..not at all;-)
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schizilly Says:
March 13th, 2009 at 9:39 pm
I see it this way. If we see someone’s page with hundreds even thousands of friends on their list (and s/he not famous), first respond would be surprised and begin to think if s/he is socialistas. I bet some people are proud to be socialista even that applies on friendster/facebook.

Maybe, some people are just too unaware of identity theft coming from these kinds of social networking hence not quite selective when adding “friends”.

Maybe, some people like to socialize with varying different people hence the random adds and actually chat and get to know them.

various reasons, really.
but mostly yes, I think hundreds/thousands friends on someone’s social networking page comes from random adds with need to fill up the friends quota and ‘be famous’. It’s scary that way. People don’t even think the consequences letting strangers know your life and privacy like that.

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john Says:
July 13th, 2009 at 12:03 am
seems you inspired someone.

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